I know this news is quite old now but I wrote it a few months ago so bear with me.
So it has been quite a while since I've last made a post. This summer has been quite hectic. Getting ready to transfer to a new university, dealing with a lot of stress etc. So today, I thought of writing down about my thoughts about Yamada Ryosuke's dating scandal. First of all, he did nothing wrong. He did something a human being would do which is to fall in love with someone. Did I feel sad about it when I first found out about it? Yeah, totally. But was I prepared for it? Sort of. I figured that something like this would occur eventually and I figured I would be sad about it(though I did wish that I knew that it'll come to my stomach and make feel super stressed). I haven't looked up what other people think of this but as sad as I am, it's just something fans are just going to have to accept. I understand that there are people who will feel like they have been betrayed and will want to bash on Yamada or his rumored girlfriend but that's just only going to benefit yourself and not him. This is going to sound super obvious but the best thing to do is just try to be happy for him. If you absolutely cannot be happy for him, then just try to accept it. Also to be honest, if this happened to me when I was 12, I would've just quit right away. But because I am older and have been a fan for a long time, I realized that it's just something has to be accepted.
This is just idols in general but it frustrates me how idols have to be this product made specifically for the fans. It's okay for fans to imagine going on a date with them and such but because they aren't really allowed to date which leads to the fans not being able to see the reality, there are just certain fans that tends to be delusional about it up to the point where they spend hundreds and thousands of dollars just to go to their concerts and try to meet them and basically stalk them. The one thing that I don't think is a good thing for fans is to be able to get close to their idols because there are people that tend to think that they know them and love them back just because they are waving at them and pointing at their uchiwa. When it comes to idol relationships, one of the most ridiculous cases this year was the E-dawn and Hyuna scandal. Why would you kick your main money maker out just because she is in a relationship? Cube is going to regret this choice for sure.
I just wanted to finish this though it has been a few months since the scandal. A post on tumblr has inspired me to finish this and I want people to understand that he is not a doll where you can dress up and play with. Just because you buy all the products that they put out does not mean that he or any idol belongs to you. I want to point this out, but you do not have to buy things to be a fan. Up until I saw posts of a certain Japanese fan saying that they buy stuff to support the members incomes, I never thought of buying these goods like that. I buy these CDs and DVDs because I want to. I don't think about the money going to the members. Also I want to point out that not all the money that you spend on concert goods and all that will go towards the members. I don't know who it actually goes to but it obviously goes towards everyone involved so that might include staff, photographers, stylists and make-up artists and those who work for the agency. There is this Japanese fan who is known for being a crazy Yamada fan. At first I thought she was just this girl who wrote about how much she loved him though it was quite excessive. Then recently she posted on her story on her instagram to DM her for those who wanted his previous address. This made me realize that she is just as bad as the Heisei shojo gundan. Then she made a video about how she feels bad about it and is getting treatment for lovesickness but I don't think she learned from this AT ALL. She is still writing the same things on her twitter. It just frustrates me that she is this bad and does not realize that what she is writing is not something that people would think nicely of you. I feel like this has something to do with her parents as well since she said her mom is a janiwota. To be honest, I was quite bad back in elementary school but I was a kid and my parents were quick to point out if I said anything unrealistic. So I feel like this girl didn't have anyone to point these things for her other than people on the internet which I'm sure she just ignores.
So I'm sorry that this post was all over the place but it really does annoy me that certain people don't see Yamada and basically any idol as human.
